Of Dreams Riding on Determination: Maheshwari's Inspiring Account

I am Maheshwari from a small village near Warangal. I wish to share with you my story.  There’s nothing extraordinary in it but I believe that my experiences as a girl growing up in a conservative village will inspire you in some ways.

Alone, I Walk the Path of Life

Both my parents are farmers. I have a younger brother who is studying in intermediate. I studied in a typical government school. You probably know how such schools are, so I won’t elaborate. 
However, in spite of being educated, most girls in our village are married at an early age. It breaks my heart to see girls younger than seventeen become mothers of two children. I know them, and trust me they would love to live a life otherwise.

Uncertain Routes

They would love to go to college, get a job and work for the country. But they can’t; marriage is the only destiny for girls in our village. Now you may wonder how I came to have access to higher education in a major city like Hyderabad.
Well, I truly am an exception in my village. Much against the wishes of the villagers and my relatives, my father stood by me and sent me to Hyderabad to complete my higher education. He has great faith in me and would like to see me serve the nation. But this confidence did not grow all at once. One step at a time, my father analysed me and my actions and came to believe that I was not to be married off  but to be educated in a city.

Born to Bloom

One of the incidents that led to my father’s conviction in me was when I was in Class 6^th. I went to school as usual and found my friends discussing about the marriage of another friend of mine. They were all very sad, as my friend was only 12 years old and the man who came to marry her was more than twenty. I was very angry and upset. So I asked my father if he could do something to save her life. My father politely said, “ Do what you want to, dear. You can go and save your friend and I know only how to save my daughter if she is in trouble”.

I was very disappointed and felt that my father let me down by not helping me. So I decided to take matters into my hand. I went to my friend’s house, met her family and requested them to stop the marriage. They simply waved me off taking my sincere pleas as a child’s whim. To them I was like a little bird- little enough to be blown away in a storm.

Braving the Complexities of Life

But I was not ready to be stopped. I went to the police station and met the S.I., Raiman Sir. He came with me in his jeep and told my friend’s father that he must stop the marriage or else he would have to arrest him and his family. The marriage was stopped and chaos ensued. Things were getting difficult when I saw my father come along with the Village Sarpanch. I was very surprised to see him and said, “Why did you not help me when I asked?” He smiled and coolly said, “ My job is to encourage and support you and not help you”.  
He stood by me and told me something that I shall remember forever. He said, “ Live like a lion. Don’t live like a deer. The deer can be hunted by the hunter but the lion can't be”.

I have since tried to be brave in all circumstances in my life. This incident was a small triumph. But there are many girls who are married before they complete school and I am unable to do anything about it. I just think how lucky I am to have a father who has sent me to a city to get college education despite the criticism, jokes and taunts of the society back in my village.  

Currently, I am the only girl in my village who has studied up to graduation, and that too in Hyderabad.

Let the Sun Never Set on a Girl's Ambition

I request all my friends in college, especially those who have lived their lives in the city to not take your education for granted. Girls of our age in my village are suffering, and if they give birth to girls they are being tortured by their in-laws. Education is a gift and let’s not waste even a bit of it. I thank my college for offering me things that I only dreamed of: good teachers, a big library, NCC, NSS, friends with whom I can speak in English and above all an opportunity to grow, learn and do something for my country. 

– Jai Hind!