“The Magic Of Detachment” - By Devyani Konkati of BSC BTCFS Second Year

Picture Credit : Special Arrangement 

We all are woven into a tapestry of emotions, fears and expectations, while each thread pulling us in different directions. This is the journey of me barbering these threads and enchanting the path of letting go.

Relationships were the most inevitable and tangled problems of my life. It was easy to build one, but it was very difficult to let it go. 

Growing up I never understood Elsa’s “let it go”, but once I realised how easy detachment was, and the peace which I got from it, I was the happiest version of myself. I slowly understood, that detachment is not just cutting people off from my life, but to get over them and fill the void of expectations with reality. 

“How did I detach?”, you may ask. As I see it, the toil of detachment doesn’t lie in the reason of it. However, it lies in the hassle of accepting that we must let go of that bond or person for our own good. Now, “What made me teach myself detachment?”, you may ponder. If I’m being perfectly honest to this question, I am clueless of what taught me this tiny powerful skill. Perhaps, it was me endlessly waiting to have their presence on my D-days, to feel included in those pointless discussions, to make silly hangout plans for fun, or just to get a mere call back or reply. All of it had blinded me with expectations from everyone, be it my parents, or my so called friends, or even possibly my secret crush. Amid this chaotic symphony of life, all of it humbled me to being enough for myself, to recognise those who truly reciprocated my efforts, and those who ne’er incipient a void to begin with. 

It was the transformative phase which went from ‘expecting’ to ‘accepting’, during which I was able to accept, that everything and everyone had their own stories, and so did I. The stories which led me here, and the stories which I had to let go, to be here. The journey of detachment was indeed painful, yet it dropped me at a serene oasis of inner peace, where I could embrace vulnerability and admire the beauty of impermanence. It gave me the immunity to leave behind, the shackles of complexities, live life independent from the ties of world, and giving myself the closure and the love I deserve. Neither I brought anything when I came here, nor will I take anything from here while going back. Instead, I will try to cherish what I will go through, with all my heart, and let it go when it’s the right time.